One Week Is Enough

One Week Is Enough

One Week Is Enough

One week is enough. Or maybe two at most. Believe it or not, I can only take paradise for so long. Don’t get me wrong. I love vacations. I love being in Mexico. Yet, it quickly gets old, and I want to get home. Would it be different if I was backpacking through Europe? Maybe. Maybe not. As much as I love new experiences, I also crave a schedule and familiar surroundings. It is the creature comforts which i start to miss after just a few days.

Does this make me boring? Probably. As I grow older, however, I am becoming more comfortable with who I am. I will never be a guy who travels for more than a month or two a year.

So why do I want to return home so quickly?

Routine

I am a sucker for routine. I like to get up at the same hour every morning. I like to have my set times for working out, eating, and working. The more routine my day is, the happier I am. It is about expectations. I do better when I have a set group of expectations to meet each day. The satisfaction I feel as the day progresses is measurable.

Could I do the same when I am out of town? I guess so. But there is so much unknown. The beauty of routine is that you generally are free of surprises. Good or bad, the unexpected is stressful. After travelling for a week, I am tired of emotionally gearing up for the unknown. If I can’t visualize what comes next, it takes mental energy to prepare.

While this may sound a little neurotic, after forty five years on this earth, I realized that this is just who I am. One week is enough. I am ready to go home, and it is likely not going to change.

Self Care

I find self care difficult when out of town. It is not impossible, but certainly not easy. What do I generally do when I am on vacation? I usually eat poorly. I have little control over the quality of food I get served in restaurants or resorts. I usually don’t have the chance to cook myself. I eat more junk food than normal. I probably also drink more alcohol than I would at home.

One Week Is Enough

Working out is difficult. Even if facilities are available. There is always something else going on. Or I am too full from eating junk food or drinking too much. And don’t forget that you then have to go through the pain of packing workout clothes and an extra pair of shoes. Plus, my energy is depleted from poor sleep.

I almost always sleep poorly on vacation. I am not used to the beds. I am sharing a room with my children, and they keep me up. We go to bed too late and wake up too early.

Are there workarounds for all this? For sure. But I never seem to get around to taking advantage of them. One week is enough and then I am completely exhausted.

Work

Although in half retirement, I am progressively realizing that I like work. When it is on my terms. During the hours that I choose. I like to do some concerted work everyday. At this point in my career, I can intersperse my job with periods of leisure as well as self directed projects.

Having everyday consist of both work and fun is the right mix for me. I like the routine. I even like looking forward to the weekend.

All of this makes me realize that when it comes to vacation, one week is enough. Or maybe two if I am going out of the country.

Final Thoughts

I don’t travel hack. Travel is not my why. While I enjoy it generally, one week is enough. By the end of seven days, I crave my regular routine, I’m tired, and ready to jump back into work.

This is not a matter of personal choice. It is just who I am. Who I have been. As boring as it sounds, I am no longer going to deny it to fit into the financial independence stereotype.

Doc G

A doctor who discovered the FI community but still struggling with RE.

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21 Responses

  1. Doc G, I totally get your reasons for wanting to return if vacation was what you were searching for. As a counterpoint, I actually love travel and advocate longer term travel as having its own different merits. I even wrote this blogpost about it:

    https://lifeoutsidethemaze.com/the-most-amazing-place-youve-never-been/

    You can remove my link if this is too self promotey but I am curious to hear your opinion if you care to drop me a line? Thanks for sharing and welcome home.

    • Doc G says:

      Long term travel works for me if you establish in one place for months at a time and reinstate a schedule.

  2. VagabondMD says:

    I love travel, and while I agree that one week is enough in most cases, I also generally like my routine and though it might sound silly, I miss my dogs when I am away.

    One thing that has benefited the quality of vacations, when we traveled as a family of four, was to as early as possible make sure the kids (now older teens) had their own sleeping quarters. This would either be their own hotel room or preferably an apartment or apartment-like accommodation. It usually costs more but is more enjoyable for all.

  3. Hustle Hawk says:

    ” I can only take paradise for so long.”
    One person’s paradise may be another person’s purgatory. It sounds like being on vacation is not your paradise. Perhaps your paradise is being at home with your routine.

    “The more routine my day is, the happier I am.”
    >I believe there was a scientific finding that part of what made ‘favourite’ music enjoyable to the listener was familiarity with that music and the knowledge and anticipation of what came next in the track. If that sensation applies to listening to music perhaps the same sensation applies to other aspects of the human experience also, which may offer an explanation for the plesure provided by your routine.

    “I find self care difficult when out of town. It is not impossible, but certainly not easy.”
    > I don’t think self-care is ever easy (in or out of town) but if your home routine makes it easier to maintain good self-care then I can see how the vacation would be disruptive to this.

    “It is just who I am. Who I have been. As boring as it sounds, I am no longer going to deny it to fit into the financial independence stereotype.”
    >To be provocative, what is the financial independence stereotype? Given that the concept of retirement is a fairly new concept in human history, let alone really retirement, has enough time passed for a financial independence stereotype to be created? Perhaps it is something along the lines of ‘leave job before traditional retirement age and travel the world’.

    HH

  4. “No matter how far you travel, you can never get away from yourself.”

    ― Haruki Murakami, After the Quake

    You is who you is!

  5. We’re kinda similar this way. But I did TONS of traveling from my late 20’s and into my early 40’s, so maybe for me it’s that I just got a lot of it out of my system. I did 3 week trips in Europe not knowing what I was going to do each day. It’s fun and exciting and they were some of the most adventurous times of my life. But not sure I’d be so jazzed on it now.

  6. Gasem says:

    WAIT I thought you wanted to spend your whole retirement on “vacation”!

    https://diversefi.com/2019/03/06/the-all-inclusive-life-2/

  7. mike g says:

    me & my wife enjoy traveling overseas and we look forward to it. i have struggled with not having a routine and have just given up on the idea of getting a lot done during travel vacation. our goal is while we enjoy our life while on vacation, holiday….we want to strive to make our lives the ones we want to be living—every day of the week. this ties into the idea of having purpose, identity and connection on what you do or where you are – i heard that once on a podcast, wait that was you Doc G :). great post – my time commenting here

  8. mike g says:

    me & my wife enjoy traveling overseas and we look forward to it. i have struggled with not having a routine and have just given up on the idea of getting a lot done during travel vacation. our goal is while we enjoy our life while on vacation, holiday….we want to strive to make our lives the ones we want to be living—every day of the week. this ties into the idea of having purpose, identity and connection on what you do or where you are – i heard that once on a podcast, wait that was you Doc G :). great post – my 1st time commenting here

    • Doc G says:

      Thanks Mike. I appreciate you listening and reading. I like this idea of living in the moment. That may help.

  9. Steveark says:

    What I like is not having to plan. Yesterday after a two day side gig trip I got home and asked my wife what we should do over the weekend. She said we could fly cross country to California and hike Yosemite or we could drive 12 hours to South Texas and hike Big Bend. We determined there was no place to stay near Big Bend on short notice and Yosemite was pretty snowed up. So I looked around and found a cool place to off-road in Tennessee with 600 miles of trails. In an hour we had a place to stay and a plan for a six day road trip! Never could pull that off when I was working my 9 to 5. Like you six days will be plenty (of ATV’ing and hiking) and we will head back home but it is so fun to just do this on the spur of the moment!

  10. More info on the destination please (I live in Tennessee). Do you have to bring your own ATV?

    • Steveark says:

      Sure, we are in Pioneer, TN tonight and there are four connected areas we can ride in directly from our loft room at Eagle Rock Campground. There are 600 miles of trails and there are rentals available though we brought our own. Pioneer is a little bit north west of Knoxville.

  11. Thanks!

    I’m in Memphis, watching the Mississippi River rise…wish I had flood insurance…another 20 feet to go and we need a boat!

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