My Unfair Advantage
My Unfair Advantage
I have a confession to make. It almost disqualifies me from writing about personal finance. You see, I have never had a problem with the hedonic treadmill. I don’t squirm uncomfortably after Thanksgiving dreading Black Friday. My unfair advantage is that I have no interest in things. I almost never have. Sure there were momentary lapses with baseball cards or some electronic or another while growing up. But it has never been a stretch for me not to spend my money.
I don’t dream of expensive cars or fancy houses. I have very few hobbies that require cash, and have so far not been interested in collecting expensive stuff.
It’s like a financial independence superpower.
Genetics?
I’m not sure where my unfair advantage came from. It certainly isn’t something that I was taught. I remember my parents enjoying spending money when I was younger, but never to excess. I am wondering if I was just born this way.
I can think of two experiences that have shaped my feelings about things. As a child I collected baseball cards. I loved to buy packs from the store and sort through them. I spent years collecting, collating, and trading. Although my eyes would sparkle when I came a cross a rare rookie card or a valuable find, I never spent any time paying for more than the basic cheap packs that I could buy at the five and dime.
The joy was not in the having, it was in finding the diamond in the rough. It was in making a stellar trade, or beating the odds and finding a valuable card in a cheap fifty cent pack.
I collected for many years, but never spent more than small sums at a time. I simply didn’t buy the expensive cards, I found a way to own them through luck or savvy.
Art Work
After the purchase of my first home, I fell in love with the idea of fine art to decorate my empty walls. I scoured galleries and eventually the internet to find a few pieces to surround myself with. I won’t lie and say I didn’t spend some money in the beginning. But my interest peaked to the point where I learned powerful bargain hunting skills on the internet.
I turned those skills into an online art gallery and eventually bought and sold a few hundred thousand dollars of art work over the next several years. Sadly, the business of art became more interesting than the art work itself, and I eventually sold all my inventory.
I quit the business when life got busy, but was left with enough to decorate my house.
I had lost my joy in buying art.
Clothes, Cars, Houses
Although I have talked about my major stealth wealth fail, I have no real love for fast cars or expensive houses. My unfair advantage is that usually I am prone to not buy something until it is absolutely necessary. And when I do, I am usually happy with second-hand, discounted, or just good enough.
I hate shopping. I hate the Apple store. Although I enjoy going to malls to get exercise and see people, I rarely purchase anything.
One of the greatest advantages to my half retirement is that I no longer need work clothes anymore. No suits or ties. No sports jackets. I pretty much can wear jeans everyday. Less clothes means less shopping.
Final Thoughts
I have strategic edge in the financial independence game. My unfair advantage is that I have no interest in things. Shopping exhausts me. So does taking care of things I own. My few historic attempts at hedonism have led to a loss of interest in the thing itself or the formation of a business.
I kind of like it this way.
I’m all for advantages.
Interesting ! You sound like a minimalist at heart. Glad to hear that you are not hypnotized by the intense Black Friday and holiday marketing.
I never thought of myself as a minimalist but I guess I am in some ways.
I buy stuff I use, and use stuff I buy. My goal is parsimony buying the most value for the least price. I play a lotto game every week called lucky money. The ticket costs a buck. The game caps at 2M max and then trickles down to smaller prizes. The odds are 3M:1. The odds on Power ball are 300M:1 and a ticket costs 2 bucks in comparison for my buck. My cost benefit is 600:1. I pay my buck and have the equivalent odds of buying 300 power ball tickets for $600/wk. My chances of actually winning are effectively zero in either game, but lucky money pays off in free tickets or 2 to 10 buck prizes fairly often. Once I won $1000, after taxes it kept me playing for a long damn time for free. The other thing is if I won 2M it wouldn’t change my life, it’s 80K/yr for 25 years, an annuity. If I won 1B I would need to move to a compound and hire security. Who wants to live like that?
Parsimony. I think that’s it. Never play lotto myself.
For the longest time when people would ask me what I wanted for my birthday or other holidays I would answer “Nothing.” I always felt it was a bit odd when I was younger and that I didn’t have an opinion of what I liked and thus wanted to have. But now I realize wanting nothing all those years was a good thing as I never had to pivot into learning how to cut back and not want things. And I saved (and continue to save) a ton of money in the process. It was definitely and advantage I had all these years without even knowing it.
Me too. I always tell people to not bother getting my anything.
Doc G, I’m with you on this. I am what is known as a maximiser (vs a satisficer); I explore all the options when making a decision to find the very best for me. This can be exhausting and time-consuming, and can still result in dissatisfaction and buyer’s remorse anyway. While I’ve definitely learned to chill out over time, it’s a lot easier to just not want to buy new things (until necessary) and avoid that lengthy process!
I think being a maximizer is great as long as it doesn’t go too far.
We are similarly advantaged in terms of being small spenders by natural inclination. It really is hard for people not similarly inclined to become financially independent and it is basically automatic for people like us. My last two pairs of new jeans cost $9.99 and $13.95 respectively, can you top that? I buy things that wear out, tennis racquets and strings, running, hiking and tennis shoes and fishing baits. Otherwise it is a terrible chore to figure out what I “want” for Christmas or birthdays, I don’t want anything.
It’s funny how for some of us it is so natural. Others struggle.
“momentary lapses with baseball cards”
Mine was much more than a momentary lapse 🙂 What was it about baseball cards? Ahhhh but it was fun…
I still dream of baseball cards.
Hey Doc, I wrote about the same topic today!
You have a great advantage. That’s unfair for the rest of us. Hahaha.
I like nice stuff, but I rarely spend money on them. For me, the pain of making money is way greater than the pleasure of buying.
I think genetics has a lot to do with it. Our son is already leaning toward being frugal at 7.
Yes. Nature vs nurture. I think nature plays a big role.