YOLO is a No No
YOLO is a No No
I have written in the past about the opportunity cost fallacy. In brief, there is an argument that luxury spending saps wealth by obliterating the compounding effect of the wasted dollar. While clearly true that you can’t make money off of money already gone, wealth is not only about cash reserves but also experiences, and even ownership. It is ok to spend. Money is just an intermediary used to purchase goods and services that you either need or bring you pleasure. The other side of the coin, however, is just as dangerous. The You Only Live Once (YOLO) belief system can destroy wealth just as fast as the opportunity cost fallacy can destroy happiness. Personal finance in the end is about balance. Extremes tend to bring hardship more than joy. YOLO is a no no.
You Don’t Only Live Once
Catchy sayings and slogans accompanied by glitzy acronyms are fun. They have an airy feel that venture to solve life problems with a simple turn of a phrase. Keep it simple stupid! Stop wasting your time being so thoughtful and introspective!
YOLO is a no no because you don’t only live once. I would argue that in the typical eighty some years of existence, people experience many new beginnings. There are new days, and new decades. New careers and new relationships. Change is so constant that we are continuously beginning or ending a new stage in life.
When you make economic decisions based on the idea that once the moment is past it will never come back again, you spend based on fear and short-lived hedonism. In actuality (especially when young), every new stage in life will feel like a fresh start. Although wisdom accrues, new beginnings abound.
You know what happens when people spend like you only live once when they are young? They end up facing the multitude of new life stages poor and unprepared to fully enjoy what life has to offer down the road. Think of all the joys a new parent or a newly retired person can experience when they have enough economic fuel to propel them in their journey.
You don’t only live once.
Compounding
Admittedly, this is the exact opposite argument I used with the opportunity cost fallacy. Money compounds. If you fall into the habit of YOLO as a young person you will have nothing in your bank account. Empty coffers don’t compound!
But the true benefit of compounding is that if you front load the sacrifice and start at the beginning of your career, wealth accumulates at a much faster rate. YOLO is a no no at this juncture. By the time you reach middle age, however, there should be enough saved up to now YOLO more intensively than you ever imagined at a younger age.
Not only your savings but your ability to spend like you only live once will compound with time.
The Fear Factor
Lastly, YOLO is a no no because it is a battle cry that focuses on fear. It espouses the theory that since you only live once, you better grab those opportunities before they disappear forever.
My advise to you, is to try to do the majority of your spending on joy or necessity, and not on fear.
Of course we have to buy the various types of insurance and spend on safety. But the rest of your dollars should be used to embrace the good things, not chase the ephemeral.
When you spend on fear, all you get is a little less fear.
Why not spend on joy?
Final Thoughts
YOLO is a no no because you don’t only live once. You live countless lives and endure countless transitions. Spending based on a YOLO philosophy, especially when young, erases the magic of compounding and values fear over joy.
So don’t do it.
At least not until your older and have a perpetual money machine that allows spending on whatever you want.
As an excuse to spend as reckless abandon I have to agree. But as a point that you still need to enjoy your life as you go I disagree. As with all things there’s a midpoint here somewhere. ‘All things in moderation and moderation in all things’
Yes. Moderation is key. Especially as you get older. Extremism can be beneficial when you are very youn ie front loading.
The phrase “once and for all” has two senses. Distributive and inclusive. If you buy a house you buy it once and for all meaning you signed the paper once and you now own it. Every thing about the house is included. But if you live in your house your one time purchase is distributed across time. You own it today and tomorrow and the next. Same is true for a retirement portfolio. You buy it once and like a weed it grows day in day out. Time and further contribution does it’s work. The problem becomes when your focus becomes pathologic. Live on 30%. Drive a beater. Dine on Ramen. Sell your first child. The problem isn’t your money, your problem is your greed. It is the opposite of YOLO, equally as perverse. This is why I viewed my portfolio as a product I was purchasing to support my future once I quit working. It wasn’t a part of my present except in that it needed funding once a year. I didn’t confuse it with FI (what ever that is) or Net worth. It was just one sink for a portion of my yearly cashflow. Because of careful planning it grew to become adequate if not abundant IN DUE TIME, not according to some simple minded “gotta be retired by or I won’t be cool” schedule. Another part of my cash flow went into living. I didn’t ride a bike or drive a beater or have a garden. Instead we had a blast on the portion allotted to blast having. When I was done with working I cracked open the portfolio. In any case pre or postI lived (an living) my life. I’m still having a blast. It’s not either/or, it’s both/and unless you put some screwy RE constraint on the deal
Wait, I can sell my first child?
I like the both/and philosophy.
I agree with full time finance above that moderation is the key. YOLO is thinking at one extreme, minimalism/frugalism at the other. Get caught up in either will likely reduce your overall life happiness. No one knows when they will die so need to enjoy the journey in moderation and plan for a long life which Yolo and frugalism sometimes miss the mark. You do only get one life to live broken down in stages as you pointed out but how many stages we get to complete is unknown so make every one count
I agree, on the other hand, you don’t want fear of premature death lead to getting old as a pauper.
What I notice now, after a frugal life, is that I’ll be leaving millions to my kids because I can’t seem to not be frugal. I buy everything I want, I travel and I’m very happy with my life, but I don’t even spend what I make working one day a week. It isn’t a problem but it is odd and I think many in this community will end up like me. With enough money to fund a lifestyle far more expensive than they want to live. You learn to be happy with less stuff and that doesn’t change. So even when money is no object you prefer to live modestly because it is more fun than blowing money on cars, houses and five star resorts. If you didn’t Yolo as a twenty something you aren’t going to Yolo after you retire, early or not.
It is true, habit is a very strong master.
What I like about this post is the concept that you not only live once, but you live 80 thousand times. Or more. I feel younger already.
Yes, you still have a bunch of new beginnings left!
Could turn “YOLO” on its head and use that idea as an instigator to get out and do things- like try to start up that business you’ve wanted to, start saving money early (because you are missing your opportunity now on compounding interest and growth). YOLO can certainly be a positive influence. But is often used as an excuse for jack-assery and drunkeness (not necessarily in that order or necessarily together). But YOLOBNJAAD (You only live one, but no jack-assery and drunkenness) is stupid sounding. Shouldn’t YOLO be the new “carpe diem”, instead?