A Hundred and Homeless
A Hundred and Homeless
I am not a doctor of finance. I’m a medical doctor. So when I enter an elderly patient’s home, I’m not expecting to do a wallet biopsy. Whether they can pay me or not is of little consequence. I do think, however, about whether they will be able to afford the care I prescribe. Will they have enough to pay for that extra caregiver? Is there cash to keep a roof over their head, food to nourish them? These considerations only became a part of my practice as I grew experienced enough to move past the initial medical reasons that I was being called for. Not only health, but finances can be heart breaking. Over many years of seeing my patients suffer and die from disastrous medical illness, I find it curious that I can’t seem to let go of the unbearably sad story of Isabel. She was chronically ill and suffering. Alone in the world. And then she became a hundred and homeless.
Elderly at Risk
I was not her financial advisor. So I can’t tell you how she ended up a hundred and homeless. Maybe she never truly owned the home and was still paying the mortgage. Maybe she did a reverse mortgage as the years passed and her body refused to succumb. She possibly took a line of credit on her home to pay for a full-time caregiver?
I don’t know the specifics. As her doctor, I drove up to her run down bungalow at the corner of her now ultra modern neighborhood. Over sixty years in the same house, the neighborhood had turned over multiple times. With the new owners came contractors and tradesmen. Her block looked nothing like it had when she moved in. Her house had become a relic of what once had been.
Sixty years ago, her husband hoisted her over his shoulder and carried her through the very same entrance that still stands today. He lived and eventually died there. Her little boy had danced through the rooms and played outside in the yard. Years after both of their deaths, those ancient walls held so much more than studs and nails. They defined a life long gone but not forgotten. A life mourned for.
She Outstayed Her Welcome
Who thinks they will live past a hundred? Who thinks they will find themselves a hundred and homeless? Isabel sure didn’t. As the decades passed, her wishes became simple and straight forward. To live the rest of her life, and die in the place where memories bounced off the ceilings and reverberated in the halls.
The notices came every month. Her balance was overdue. Her caregiver, aging in place along with Isabel, had to fetch her reading glasses to try to interpret the minute mathematical equations that skittered across the page.
Eventually her attorney delivered the bad news. Isabel was bankrupt. Her caregiver would have to be let go and the house sold. The money from the sale along with Medicaid would provide for a comfortable bed in a nursing home down the road.
A New Home
Isabel is not truly a hundred and homeless. She has a ceiling over her head and three meals a day. But her beloved caregiver has been taken away. The four walls in which her family lived and died are scheduled to be knocked down by yet another contractor. All evidence of the past erased.
Her mental status has started to decline. Removed from familiar surroundings, she has no connection to the nurses and aids that scurry in and out of her room. She has no family left. Her friends have all died. Her caregiver, her only link to the outside world, has had to look for work elsewhere.
I believe that she wishes that she had died long ago.
This is Us
A sad story, for sure, but not uncommon. Medical science can help bodies live and thrive longer, but our social structures and governmental entities are lagging woefully behind.
We give physiologically and then take away financially.
Our community would never let Isabel suffer from lack of healthcare. Medicare and charity will cover whatever medical needs she has. Yet she is dying from something more fundamental. More elemental.
Financial catastrophe.
Good morning DocG,
Reading about this was sad. Mirrors so many seniors even in our community. Reminds me to live more each day as time really does wait for no one.
It’s a shame. We as a society need to work on this.
Sad and interesting at the same time. I have so many questions… Did Isabel have grandchildren to love her and help take care of her? Does the burden fall to the government (and hence the taxpayers) to pay for all the needs of our aging senior citizens? Should our society be a little bit more communal and familial where the community and the family take responsibility of caring for the elderly (much like in many non-Western societies)? So many questions. And the answer doesn’t seem simple.
Unfortunately, Isabel had no family. She even had enough for the house. She just didn’t have enough for both the house and the caregiver. I think some of this should be part of medicare. We should let people age in place.
Sad but not uncommon. Recently there was a feature on Meals on Wheels in our community. It is such a great service that not only provides regular meals to senior citizens, but also a regular friendly face for at least a bit of social interaction.
Meals on Wheels is a great program. We need to give our elderly more opportunity to age in place.
Community is so important. We have many seniors on our street. We shovel their walkways during winter and check in on them when we do not see them on our daily walks. My in laws are also in their 90’s and have been able to age in place with Meals on Wheels and by having their 6 kids all live within 5 minutes of them. That’s why I bought a multiplex- I am enticing my kids to stay with me when I get old!
Having kids and lots of family certainly helps!
A sad story but probably all too common. My Mom turns 89 this weekend and while we did get her out of the house that she knew for the past 50 years, she doesn’t have much money. Thankfully she has decent health coverage from my Dad’s pension, but possible long-term or elderly care issues worry the hell outta me.
Your mom is lucky to have you! But it is true, care gets more expensive as you get older. We as a society need to work on this.
That’s hard. People live longer these days. My mom is staying with us and we’re committed to taking care of her. She doesn’t have much money so this is the best arrangement. I don’t know what we’ll do about long term care. That’s a hard question.
Hey Joe. I have seen you reference your mom on the blog. I think it is always hard to figure both the physical aspects of care and economics. Your mother is lucky to have your help. I hope it all turns out ok!
When my grandmother was in her 90’s, she told me she was ready to die. All her friends were gone and she couldn’t do much anymore. We tried to get her to leave her home and go to an assisted living place where she would be with other people during the day and have fun things to do. She never wanted to leave her home. I visited once or twice a month (she lived 30 min away) and my father visited daily (he lived about a mile away). She eventually went to the assisted living home and brightened up. She had things to do and people to talk with all day long. She passed away less than a year from making that move. I wish she would have moved sooner. I think she was afraid of losing her autonomy and I know she didn’t like the cost. She did live a long and happy life though.
Dr. Cory S. Fawcett
Prescription for Financial Success
It’s so much better when the money is there. Some of these assisted livings are really nice. The elderly often perk up when part of a community.
Sad story. it’s becoming very common now days. My parents have moved in to my basement and I am committed to helping and supporting them them as long as it’s required.
Your parents are lucky to have you.
Being Mortal, by Atul Gawande, is an incredibly well written book that speaks to many of these issues. I can’t recommend it enough.
I’ve read it as well as a bunch of other Gawande books. Good read!